PTSD Is Real
Just over 2 months ago I attended a weekend-long workshop designed to help attendees work through past traumas. Many of us are trauma survivors, and yet the world often doesn’t want to acknowledge that fact. People tend to say “Oh that was in the past, you just need to get over it.” The fact is, if the trauma was real, we don’t just “get over it.” We can’t. The wounds run too deep.
I’m a strength and weight loss coach in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, and I’ve dedicated myself to helping people lose weight. I like to work with the really tough cases, people who’ve tried time and time again, and have just had no luck in their weight loss project.
I like working with these people because I get it. I myself was once 95 lbs overweight, and I can tell you for sure that the struggle to lose it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I’m a trauma survivor, and the wounds ran deep. All of that “stuff” had to be worked through.
Working it out generally requires professional intervention, because to just ignore it is to pretty much guarantee that we will continue to act out in maladaptive ways. We do this simply to be able to cope.
One of my maladaptive coping strategies – probably one of my biggest ones – was to overeat. Starchy, sugary, fatty, salty foods would literally take the pain away. I wasn’t even aware the pain was there because I was always eating to ensure that my real feelings never came out.
Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes
The problem was the weight I was gaining was driving me nuts. I had to change, but I didn’t know how. I just couldn’t take itany more. Eating the foods that made me feel better came at a price – a huge price: an elevated waistline with all the attendant health issues that come along with it. My doctor read me the riot act, and I had to change.
So I reached out for help. Therapy was a large part of that. Group support was another. I read whatever I could on reality-based therapies such as Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy.
It didn’t stop there: I also surrounded myself with healthy people that I could share my struggles with. I took direction from them, did what they suggested, and tried to put in to practice everything I was learning from my therapist, and from what I was reading.
Today I remain a thin man in excellent physical condition NOT because I went on a diet. It was because I changed EVERYTHING. I changed who I hung out with. I changed what I ate COMPLETELY. I began to exercise. I began to get more sleep. I began to tell others what was bothering me, rather than bottling it up and keeping it all inside.
I changed ME, and the result is that I don’t have to worry about my waistline any more.
The Problem Really Isn’t What You’re Eating
The problem is WHY YOU’RE EATING IT. Solve the “why” problem, and you’ll no longer HAVE TO eat the stuff that makes you feel better. You won’t have to, because you’ll have dealt with your issues, and you won’t need to turn to food any longer to cope.
Of course you have to change what you’re eating in order to lose weight. But you’ll be dead in the water if you try to change it without dealing with the reasons WHY you’re eating the way you do. That’s essential in the game of weight loss.
Maybe You Need Some Help?
I had to work with therapists, mentors, a weight loss coach and 3 strength coaches to get to where I am today. It didn’t come easy.
If you’ve tried the game of weight loss several times already but keep losing the battle instead of the weight, maybe it’s time to try something new. I’ve created a 10-week weight loss program that deals with a lot of the concepts you’ll need to begin working through your trauma. If you’ve experienced any of the following, you may well be a trauma survivor, and you may well need extra help:
1. Verbal abuse
2. Emotional abuse
3. Spiritual abuse
4. Sexual abuse
7. Physical abuse
8. Unfair treatment at work and/or in a volunteer position; or
9. Any behaviour that has left you feeling belittled, ashamed or even possibly guilty
Trauma is a funny thing. What’s traumatic to one person may not be to another, so don’t minimize your experiences just because others might not find what you went through traumatic. Different people have different levels of sensitivity to different things, and you just might be more sensitive than others. Whatever you do, please don’t minimize your situation. If anything I’ve said here resonates, reach out for help and talk to someone.
Contact me, if you’d like, at 647-677-6025 or at firstname.lastname@example.org to book a free consultation today. I can help you determine whether or not my weight loss course might be right for you, or if perhaps another course of action might do you more good.
I’m happy to help, and want to see everyone happy, joyous and free.